Phoebe, I sympathize with you. What a horrible thing to go through. That was so rude to single you out. She could have told you what the problem was and asked you to address it. Taking your son home should have been your decision, not hers. I know how it feels to be singled out. For a long time I felt like the "other," and it wasn't until recently that I realized how that has impacted me and my relationships with people. The only thing I would add is not to continue relationships with so called "toxic" people that don't acknowledge their end of the relationship. For example, I recently sent an email to a "friend" whose child spit on my daughter. I didn't get an apology from the child. Apparently, the parent didn't feel a need to either, so that relationship has ended. It's important for my daughter to be treated respectfully and have healthy relationships. If this child can get away with it, that is how my daughter will think of herself, that it's okay for someone to spit at her, or say mean things to her. Unacceptable. She has friends that treat her respectfully, and that is most important.